11 Points on Parenting from the life story of AL HASAN IBN ALI (may Allaah be pleased with them)

Al Hasan Ibn Ali (may Allaah be pleased with them) the famous and prominent sahabah was the grandson of our last Messenger, Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He came from a noble family and was brought up by his reputable family members. In this short article, we will share many important points for us to ponder upon in our journey as parents in bringing up our children, the future leaders.

Point #1: Al Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) has parents who were brave with good character.

Ali bin Abi Talib (may Allaah be pleased with him) was his father. Ali (may Allaah be pleased with him) was the first child who accepted Islam when it first brought by Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He was the 4th caliphate. He was so brave that he went to almost all expedition during the lifetime of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Al Hasan’s mother was Fatimah bint Muhammad (may Allaah be pleased with her) was the youngest daughter of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). It was said that she was the one who resembles Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) the most. Aaishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “I never saw anyone whose speech more closely resembled that of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) than Faatimah. When she entered upon him, he would stand up to greet her, kiss her and welcome her, and she would do the same for him.”[1] She was fearless for the sake of the truth.

Point #2: His birth was celebrated in an Islamic way

When Al Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) was born, Adhan, Tahnik, and Aqiqah were performed for him. Adhan recitation should be done on the newborn baby’s right ear to allow the words of Tawheed to be the first words that the baby hears in this world.

 Aaishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did Aqiqah for al-Hasan and al-Husayn (may Allaah be pleased with them) on the seventh day, and gave them their names.[2]

Point #3: He was given the right name 

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) changed Al Hasan’s name from Harb (means war) to Al Hasan (means the good). Naming a person is one of the most important aspects of a person’s life. It is because the name will be used to call him/her in this life and in the Hereafter. We should avoid names that show enslavement towards other than Allah, names of the non-muslims or names of false gods. Newborns should be named with good names. Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The most beloved of names to Allaah are Abd-Allaah and Abd al-Rahman.” [3]

Point #4: The right to be breastfed

Al Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) was breastfed during his infancy. One night, Umm al-Fadhl (may Allaah be pleased with her) had a dream; surprised and confused, she went to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) seeking the interpretation of her dream. Umm al-Fadhl (may Allaah be pleased with her) explained to him, “Messenger of Allah, I saw in my dream that a part of your body was in my house!” Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) then interpreted, “Fatimah (my daughter) will give birth to a boy who you will nurse with the milk of Quthm (meaning her son).”[4]

Point #5: He was engaged on prayers and devotional activities since early childhood

In view of Al Hasan’s (may Allaah be pleased with him) family background, we could understand that he was brought up by family members that engaged themselves towards the acts of obedience towards Allah. He was a pious man. He travelled on foot more than 10 times to Makkah for pilgrimage.

Point #6: The environment he lived in was near to mosque & Prophet Muhammad’s house.

A house near to masjid is an important aspect in choosing a home, to allow accessibility for our kids to go to the masjid and to make them love being in the masjid. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There are seven whom Allaah will shade with His shade on the day when there will be no shade except His: the just ruler; a young man who grows up worshipping his Lord; a man whose heart is attached to the mosque; two men who love one another for the sake of Allaah and meet and part on that basis; a man who is called by a woman of rank and beauty and says ‘I fear Allaah’; a man who gives in charity and conceals it to such an extent that his left-hand does not know what his right hand gives; and a man who remembers Allaah when he is alone, and his eyes fill up.” [5]

During the time of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), children were allowed in masjid since a young age. They did not only pray, but they spent time in it. It is narrated that Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “We were praying ‘Isha` prayer with Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)  when he prostrated, Al-Hassan and Al-Hussain (may Allaah be pleased with them) would jump on his back, when he rises with his head he picks them gently from the back and places them (on the floor) kindly, so when he returns (to prostration) they return to what they do, and when he ended his prayer he would put them on his thighs.”[6]

Point #7: Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) showed his love thru kiss towards Al Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) and correct him through action.

Narrated Abu Huraira: Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) kissed Al-Hasan bin Ali (may Allaah be pleased with them) while Al-Aqra’ bin Habis at-Tamim was sitting beside him. Al-Aqra said, “I have ten children, and I have never kissed anyone of them,” Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cast a look at him and said, “Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully.” [7]

Even though Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) loved Al Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him), he still corrected his mistake whenever necessary. When Al- Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) did something wrong Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not simply let it slide, but he told him and showed him through his action. Abu Huraira (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that Al Hasan ibn ‘Ali (may Allaah be pleased with them) took one of the dates of the sadaqa and put it in his mouth, whereupon Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: Leave it, leave it, throw it; don’t you know that we do not eat the sadaqa? [8]

Point #8: Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told Al Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) that he loved him and making dua for him

Narrated Al-Bara: I saw Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) carrying Al-Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) on his shoulder and saying, “O Allah! I love him, so please love him.” [9]

Point #9: Brave for the truth.

As mentioned earlier, both of Al Hasan’s parents were a courageous person. As a youth, Al Hasan defended Uthman Bin Affan when Uthman (may Allaah be pleased with him) was attacked by rebels.

Point #10: Unite the Muslims

As parents, we should instil the spirit of unity among our kids, not only among the family members but the whole ummah in general. Al Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) was a person with good character. He has the character of Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Al-Hasan (may Allaah be pleased with him) was the most similar person to Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in form, manner, and nobility. When he was poisoned and killed, he concealed the identity of the responsible person, to avoid bloodshed. He made the ‘Peace Deal’ between the 2 Muslim groups and gave his Caliphate to Muawiyah (may Allaah be pleased with him).

Point #11: Leadership quality

This quality has been instilled in Al Hasan’ heart since small. He was surrounded by rightly guided leaders and emulated from them. He led the funeral prayer for Ali Bin Abi Talib (may Allaah be pleased with him), and he became the 5th rightly guided Caliph for 6 months.

These are the 11 points that can be extracted from his life story. If you find it beneficial, please share it with others. Barakallahu feekum.

Happy reading and May Allah make us better parents. Ameen.

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Bibliography:

[1] Narrated by al-Bukhari, al-Manaaqib, 3353

[2] Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, 12/127; al-Haakim, 4/264. Classed as saheeh by al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari, 9/589.

[3] Narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh, 1398.

[4] http://idealmuslimah.com/personalities/sahaabiyaat/195-umm-al-fadl.html

[5] Agreed upon, narrated by al-Bukhari, no. 620; Muslim, no. 1712.

[6] Hadith Hasan by Al-Albani 3325 Al-Silsila Al-Sahiha

[7] Sahih Bukhari and Muslim

[8] Sahih Bukhari and Muslim

[9] Sahih Bukhari and Muslim

[10] Al-Bukhari (2704)

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